“What do you think of this top?” I said. I was trying on some clothes yesterday and was asking the little person next to me for feedback.
“You need a boob job,” she said.
My instant reaction would normally be something like this:
But before I could even laugh, I realized this was coming from my 11-year-old niece, so I went:
“Uh, you know, boobs?” she said, as if I needed any further clarification.
How does one even handle a situation like that?! I’m not a mom (and not ready for it either!); I don’t think I know the proper language to deal with pre-teens. I had no clue how to tell my niece, in a cool way, that what she said was f*cked up. ha ha. But most importantly, I wanted to know why/where/how the hell she knew about implants.
You know it is bad when little girls think big breasts — at any cost — are the standard.
I had to think quick though and teach my niece a little something about boob sizes and beauty. I think that, as adults, we have certain (unofficial) responsibilities. Even if we’re not the parents, we should spread the knowledge and try to put an end to the prejudices and the “ideal” image of things and people that society wants to implant in our heads. Laughing and not saying anything about it would’ve just reaffirmed my niece’s statement. So I said to her that I do not need a “boob job” because I was perfectly comfortable in my body. I told her that boobs come in different sizes and we should be happy and work with what we have.
She didn’t buy it (she’s a stubborn one, a know-it-all wannabe), but I think she’ll think about my honest advice (I hope) one day when her little friends and the Internet tells her otherwise.
What would you say to kids this young thinking about breast implants, either for themselves or for others?