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Living Small In Large America

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It only took me two years, but I’ve finally decided on a title for my story: Flat-Chested Señorita: Living Small in Large America

I’m still working on the cover and editing, but should be ready very soon. It’s my story, but one that I hope encourages young girls and grown women to be and love themselves, love their bodies — and a message to men to stop being jerks and appreciate all women. I can’t wait for everyone to read it! Be sure to check back for publishing date.

You might also want to read: By The Way, I Wrote a Book – and follow my author page! 🙂

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Realizing the (Un)Importance of Big Boobs in Our Society

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When you finally realize that no boobs in the world—big or small— will get you the guy you have a major crush on,

That big fake implants won’t necessarily get you that dream job (unless the job requires it),

That big boobs won’t get you out of a speeding ticket—because they won’t.

When you realize that happiness doesn’t depend on the dimension of your chest,

That the size of your boobs makes no difference in the bedroom,

That, presence, confidence (and perhaps a fit body)—not breasts—will have all guys turn when you enter a room,

That hugging the people you love as close as possible will mean you’ll actually be able to hug the people you love as close as possible,

That you won’t have to worry about developing indentations on your shoulders or having back pain from carrying “heavy weights” in your front,

That you don’t have to worry about the inevitable eventual sagginess,

When you realize that breasts-cancer survivors may not even have a pair anymore,

You’ll realize just how lucky you are to even have boobs.

And you’ll learn to appreciate your tiny ones and love yourself for all its natural beauty.

Rock on, girl!

Society still has a lot to realize.

Explosive Boobs and Other Things

Sometimes we’re so vain that we cross the line trying to alter our bodies, completely forgetting about the potential risks. Like this poor woman, Kylie Hudson; she seems to have deep insecurity issues, so she had breast implants.

The implants would help her self-esteem. However, they exploded in her body within months. Now she’s left with fewer options than she had before, when she was FINE without a big bust.

boobs explodedShe said:

Now I am living a nightmare. For anybody having a boob job just to get big boobs, I would say think very seriously about the risks. I am devastated.

The complete story here.

This a reminder to women that — especially to the new generation of young girls terrified that they may be called flat-chested — plastic surgery isn’t always the best self-esteem booster. Security comes from within.

Certain things just don’t belong inside your body, ladies.

As long as you have a functioning brain… 😉

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It Would Surprise You, But I Do Have to Wear a Bra

That would be my answer to anyone who asks if I really had to wear a bra. I stumbled upon this Huffingtonpost article, ‘Flat-Chested’ And More Things Not To Say To Small-Busted Women, which took me back to “Flat-chested bitch” is not an insult. I don’t care how many times I have to link back to that message as long as it is read by all the right people. Really trying to empower my fellow small-busted here!

Now, the fact that being called flat-chested is not an insult doesn’t mean that some women do get offended by it. Even I must confess; there’s something on that Huff Post article that I think would bother me personally, and that is the question “Have you ever considered implants?”

Some of my close friends joke about these things mentioned on that article all the time and it’s so funny that even I bring up the subject sometimes just so that I can hear them crack some “flat-chest jokes.” I don’t mind it because they’re my friends and it’s fun, and I know they can only be kidding (they better be).  But if an acquaintance ever asked me that question I think it’d make me sad. Sad because it’d mean that some people would rather see a woman go through extreme and dangerous measures to acquire a more “desirable” bust than to accept the fact that she’s just small, which is also desirable, and most importantly that she’s happy.

men leotardYou know, men are lucky that they don’t have their junk up on their chest, not exposed to the world (not even when wearing leotards) every day the way women sort of have to expose their breasts. Otherwise, this argument would be dead in this man’s world. My next statement would be that more men should wear leotards.

I’m glad to say that I don’t consider the rest of “offenses” from that list offensive at all. I guess it depends on the kind of environment where a girl is raised. I’d say I was raised in a healthy supportive environment, but it just wasn’t the case. In fact, my family and friends couldn’t care less about breasts! It was never a controversy; who was bigger, who was smaller…none of that. Growing up, no one around me ever gave boob dimensions that much importance — as it should be.

Sure I had my self-esteem problems somewhere in the middle, when I started to immerse myself in pop culture, but I don’t remember getting offended in a major way when people like my cousin said things like, “If my boobs were the same size as yours, I’d never wear a bra.” I took it as a compliment.

Anyway, if you have a small bust, take a look at the article and let me know what offends—or used to offend—you (if at all!).

Dior drops model because of breast size

Now this is funny…and maybe ironic, but mostly f*cked up. Model Jourdan Dunn has apparently been canceled by Dior because of the size of her boobs being maybe two sizes too big.

She expressed her love for fashion on Twitter:

She took it lightly, better than a lot of us would have. But she’s been discriminated against for worst stuff, too:

The blunt prejudice that exists in the modeling industry is nothing new, which is why a lot of people have responded with, “well, that’s the modeling industry for you.” Uh, no — it doesn’t have to be. It is that way because we’ve allowed it, because models continue to allow it. Dior does have a history of racism and typecasting. They need to change that and adjust to the real world.

Modeling companies may sometimes ditch a model if she doesn’t have the specific “look” they’re looking for at the moment, and that can be understood. But in instances like this, when you tell a girl that she can’t represent a fashion house because of the size of her cup, then it’s not cool at all. It’s kind of ironic because in Hollywood it is the complete opposite. We small-busted women are flattered to learn that our size is appreciated by the fashion industry. But honestly, I couldn’t care less about a world where they drive girls to starvation and turn them into human hangers. I wish the size of any woman’s chest didn’t get in the way of her career all the time.

So, this is the kind of design Dunn would’ve modeled:

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Dior Haute Couture Fall-Winter 2013-2014
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Dunn was dropped because of her (bigger) cup size, though not sure why her model page reportedly says she’s a 32-A. If that’s really her size, then she might own the best wonder bra ever (I doubt she’s 32-A). Check out this snap from her Twitter pics.

Joudan Dunn

(They really need to feed the models, by the way.) Also, do they have a different measurement method in France? The boobs on the girl walking the runway at the Paris Fashion week do not look smaller or equal to 32-A at all. That’d make some of us a non-existing number!

Good for this model for at least speaking out.

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