Body Image

VS is BS

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This brand begs us to believe, and totally relies on us believing, that our power comes from enhancing, accessorizing, fixing, and flaunting our bodies. It relies on us believing beautiful and “sexy” look ONE very specific way — very thin, tall, young, and wrinkle- and cellulite-free — and that we must achieve those ideals by any means necessary in order to be “sexy, bold, and powerful.” If we believe we are empowered (and made desirable, happy, and healthy) by perfecting the looks of our bodies above all else, we are giving our power to an industry that profits immensely at the expense of our self-worth. What you’ll see from VS is not empowerment, but about asking girls and women to give away their power by doing one of two things in order to feel a fake and fleeting form of “power:” 1) fixing it, or 2) flaunting it. Both leave us at the harmful and stifling state of self-objectification* that hinders female progress,  health, and happiness in every possible way.

Full article: http://www.beautyredefined.net/victorias-secret-war-on-women/

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Define Sexy

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‘Sexy’ is not something you push up with a bra, or tame with spandex, or lift with squats, or wear on your lips, or flatten with an iron. Sexy is in the way you express and carry yourself; it’s in a confident smile, it’s in humility, it’s in actions, it’s in being yourself. To me, it is even in kindness. We might all have a different definition for what sexy is. But I really do think that it has nothing to do with body parts and everything to do with personality. Lack of personality kills sex appeal, darling. And once that’s done, all that’s left is dead meat.

Success Should Not Depend on Breasts

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There’s a place for everything, and my guess is that if men wanted to see breasts, they would — it’s where they should — then go to a strip club. Even Burlesque shows can give them a better view. (I’ve got you covered, dudes.) But regular nightclubs are for dancing!

I went to yet another audition the other day — and this is for simple club dancing, nothing major, where the main things that should really be “popping” are personality, energy, and rhythm. As I struggled to make my top look full (I guess), one of the women I used to work with, and who was part of the panel judging our “abilities,” walked in the dressing room; noticed my struggle and bluntly said, “Girl, you gotta make ’em pop if you want the job!”

No, I wasn’t shocked. She told me something I already knew, but had hoped to get away with. What I don’t understand is why women are objectifying other women. As far as I’m concerned, this business is run by women. Unless I’ve only seen the surface of it and they’re actually just marionettes. It’s in every field, apparently. Ballerinas can’t have large breasts; club dancers’ can’t have small breasts…it never ends. It’s so ridiculous and exhausting.

As much as I love this art, I would never alter my body just to fit in this artificial bullshit mainstream has created. Dancers simply want to dance and it’s a shame that they have to be put in that position, where their success depends on whether they’re small or large. Skills are not enough, it seems. We have to change that. I don’t believe a dancer’s talent, grace, passion, hard work, and ability to entertain should be overlooked because of the size of her cup. Shame on the industry for keeping this up.

How to Fake Bigger Boobs

A YouTube newsletter delivered the latest videos from my subscriptions to my inbox and one of the videos got my immediate attention. It read: “5 Ways to Fake Big Boobs!

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My first thought, I don’t even remember subscribing to any channel of that sort. Last night I was already bothered about having to deal with something similar over the weekend, so the last thing I wanted to see was another person telling women to essentially “fake it ’til they make it.”

But I clicked anyway. I would at least react to the “garbage” I was expecting to watch and have a story to blog about.  To my delight, it was not what I was thinking at all. It was better. Watch:

“It only takes a couple of bees to get a pair of double D’s.” ha ha!

It’s silly and it’s full of sarcasm and wittiness, and that’s why it’s perfect. Society needs to stop pushing girls and women to the extremes. Everyone needs to just stop trying to make large breasts the standard, because they are not.

So much background drama just to show you a video, right? 😀

I just love anything that reminds women to keep their feet on the ground, to love and appreciate their bodies — and if told through comedy, even better. And I remember now why I subscribed to that channel. The rest of her stuff is pretty funny, too, check it out!

Don’t Need Your Silicone, I Prefer My Own

Am I less of a lady if I don’t wear pantyhose
My momma said ‘A lady ain’t what she wears but what she knows’
But I’ve drawn the conclusion, it’s all an illusion
Confusion’s the name of the game
A misconception, a vast deception
Something got to change.

What can I say, I love a good self-empowerment song! These words by India Arie are just perfect — anthem-material.

Sing it, ladies!

Body Evolution: A Video All Women Should Watch

This is an old video, but a message that never gets old. Watch how the model is “turned into a bombshell glamor model with the help of hair and makeup artists and of course, Photoshop.”

Airbrushing is playing with our standard of beauty and ruining the self-esteem of our young generation. It is important for women to understand that this “beauty” is not real. Images of models and celebrities we see on magazines are thoroughly tweaked. Don’t buy into the madness!

Natural beauty rules in the end.

Related article: Girls Expected to Have Dolls Tits

 

Living Small In Large America

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It only took me two years, but I’ve finally decided on a title for my story: Flat-Chested Señorita: Living Small in Large America

I’m still working on the cover and editing, but should be ready very soon. It’s my story, but one that I hope encourages young girls and grown women to be and love themselves, love their bodies — and a message to men to stop being jerks and appreciate all women. I can’t wait for everyone to read it! Be sure to check back for publishing date.

You might also want to read: By The Way, I Wrote a Book – and follow my author page! 🙂

Girls Expected to Have Doll Tits

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So funny and true! In her book Bossy Pants, Tina Fey writes a list of physical features that girls are expected to have nowadays. The name of this chapter is All Girls Must Be Everything, and she talks about how acceptance of the size of certain body parts have changed since she was a little girl:

“But I think that the first real change in women’s body image came when JLo turned it butt-style. That was the first time that having a large-scale situation in the back was part of mainstream American beauty.”

Ha ha. I thought Sir Mix-a-Lot’s “Baby Got Back” sorta helped the situation, but I’m not really sure.

Fey doesn’t elaborate on who we should thank for the “desirable” doll breasts (though I think Barbie started it), but she’s definitely right about how Pop Culture has twisted things for women — in a major way.

“How do we survive this?” she writes. “How do we teach our daughters and our gay sons that they are good enough the way they are? Instead of trying to fit an impossible ideal, I took a personal inventory of all my healthy body parts for which I am grateful… I would not trade any of these features for anybody else’s.”

I wouldn’t trade mine for anybody else’s either.

“You Need a Boob Job”

“What do you think of this top?” I said. I was trying on some clothes yesterday and was asking the little person next to me for feedback.

“You need a boob job,” she said.

My instant reaction would normally be something like this:

But before I could even laugh, I realized this was coming from my 11-year-old niece, so I went:

“Uh, you know, boobs?” she said, as if I needed any further clarification.

How does one even handle a situation like that?! I’m not a mom (and not ready for it either!); I don’t think I know the proper language to deal with pre-teens. I had no clue how to tell my niece, in a cool way, that what she said was f*cked up. ha ha. But most importantly, I wanted to know why/where/how the hell she knew about implants.

You know it is bad when little girls think big breasts — at any cost — are the standard.

I had to think quick though and teach my niece a little something about boob sizes and beauty. I think that, as adults, we have certain (unofficial) responsibilities. Even if we’re not the parents, we should spread the knowledge and try to put an end to the prejudices and the “ideal” image of things and people that society wants to implant in our heads. Laughing and not saying anything about it would’ve just reaffirmed my niece’s statement. So I said to her that I do not need a “boob job” because I was perfectly comfortable in my body. I told her that boobs come in different sizes and we should be happy and work with what we have.

She didn’t buy it (she’s a stubborn one, a know-it-all wannabe), but I think she’ll think about my honest advice (I hope) one day when her little friends and the Internet tells her otherwise.

What would you say to kids this young thinking about breast implants, either for themselves or for others?