Happy New Year!

Loved the new connections in 2013, and appreciate the old faithful ones! Thank you everyone. Have an amazing new year, and may your publishing dreams come true!

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It Was Nice Living You, 2013

 

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Body Evolution: A Video All Women Should Watch

This is an old video, but a message that never gets old. Watch how the model is “turned into a bombshell glamor model with the help of hair and makeup artists and of course, Photoshop.”

Airbrushing is playing with our standard of beauty and ruining the self-esteem of our young generation. It is important for women to understand that this “beauty” is not real. Images of models and celebrities we see on magazines are thoroughly tweaked. Don’t buy into the madness!

Natural beauty rules in the end.

Related article: Girls Expected to Have Dolls Tits

 

Living Small In Large America

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It only took me two years, but I’ve finally decided on a title for my story: Flat-Chested Señorita: Living Small in Large America

I’m still working on the cover and editing, but should be ready very soon. It’s my story, but one that I hope encourages young girls and grown women to be and love themselves, love their bodies — and a message to men to stop being jerks and appreciate all women. I can’t wait for everyone to read it! Be sure to check back for publishing date.

You might also want to read: By The Way, I Wrote a Book – and follow my author page! 🙂

Girls Expected to Have Doll Tits

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So funny and true! In her book Bossy Pants, Tina Fey writes a list of physical features that girls are expected to have nowadays. The name of this chapter is All Girls Must Be Everything, and she talks about how acceptance of the size of certain body parts have changed since she was a little girl:

“But I think that the first real change in women’s body image came when JLo turned it butt-style. That was the first time that having a large-scale situation in the back was part of mainstream American beauty.”

Ha ha. I thought Sir Mix-a-Lot’s “Baby Got Back” sorta helped the situation, but I’m not really sure.

Fey doesn’t elaborate on who we should thank for the “desirable” doll breasts (though I think Barbie started it), but she’s definitely right about how Pop Culture has twisted things for women — in a major way.

“How do we survive this?” she writes. “How do we teach our daughters and our gay sons that they are good enough the way they are? Instead of trying to fit an impossible ideal, I took a personal inventory of all my healthy body parts for which I am grateful… I would not trade any of these features for anybody else’s.”

I wouldn’t trade mine for anybody else’s either.

Big Breasted? You’re Blessed – Says This Ad

“Looking for girls who have been blessed in the chest…”

I came across this ad on Craigslist — likely posted by just another big-breasts-worshiping man — and the wording of it caught my eye because, apparently, girls, if you’re large in the chest you’re blessed. Anything below a C-cup, we’re damned.

Damn, and I thought it was a blessing to even have boobs at all.  Good to know…

 

“You Need a Boob Job”

“What do you think of this top?” I said. I was trying on some clothes yesterday and was asking the little person next to me for feedback.

“You need a boob job,” she said.

My instant reaction would normally be something like this:

But before I could even laugh, I realized this was coming from my 11-year-old niece, so I went:

“Uh, you know, boobs?” she said, as if I needed any further clarification.

How does one even handle a situation like that?! I’m not a mom (and not ready for it either!); I don’t think I know the proper language to deal with pre-teens. I had no clue how to tell my niece, in a cool way, that what she said was f*cked up. ha ha. But most importantly, I wanted to know why/where/how the hell she knew about implants.

You know it is bad when little girls think big breasts — at any cost — are the standard.

I had to think quick though and teach my niece a little something about boob sizes and beauty. I think that, as adults, we have certain (unofficial) responsibilities. Even if we’re not the parents, we should spread the knowledge and try to put an end to the prejudices and the “ideal” image of things and people that society wants to implant in our heads. Laughing and not saying anything about it would’ve just reaffirmed my niece’s statement. So I said to her that I do not need a “boob job” because I was perfectly comfortable in my body. I told her that boobs come in different sizes and we should be happy and work with what we have.

She didn’t buy it (she’s a stubborn one, a know-it-all wannabe), but I think she’ll think about my honest advice (I hope) one day when her little friends and the Internet tells her otherwise.

What would you say to kids this young thinking about breast implants, either for themselves or for others?

Realizing the (Un)Importance of Big Boobs in Our Society

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When you finally realize that no boobs in the world—big or small— will get you the guy you have a major crush on,

That big fake implants won’t necessarily get you that dream job (unless the job requires it),

That big boobs won’t get you out of a speeding ticket—because they won’t.

When you realize that happiness doesn’t depend on the dimension of your chest,

That the size of your boobs makes no difference in the bedroom,

That, presence, confidence (and perhaps a fit body)—not breasts—will have all guys turn when you enter a room,

That hugging the people you love as close as possible will mean you’ll actually be able to hug the people you love as close as possible,

That you won’t have to worry about developing indentations on your shoulders or having back pain from carrying “heavy weights” in your front,

That you don’t have to worry about the inevitable eventual sagginess,

When you realize that breasts-cancer survivors may not even have a pair anymore,

You’ll realize just how lucky you are to even have boobs.

And you’ll learn to appreciate your tiny ones and love yourself for all its natural beauty.

Rock on, girl!

Society still has a lot to realize.

Best Women’s Rights Video Ever

I had to share. I can’t stop laughing, but I’m laughing with the women who wanted to see Robin Thicke’s Blurred Lines video trashed AND some women’s rights advocacy in a major way at the same time. This is a sweet combination of both. I wrote a piece about it along with Justin Timberlake’s video Tunnel Vision: The Exploitation of the Female Body Continues.

But  yeah, it’s a role-reversing political parody by Full Frontal Freedom based on Robin Thicke’s “Blurred Lines”, inspired by the women of the Texas legislature, and it’s pretty clever. Check it out!

Stand with these women fighting for our rights!

Explosive Boobs and Other Things

Sometimes we’re so vain that we cross the line trying to alter our bodies, completely forgetting about the potential risks. Like this poor woman, Kylie Hudson; she seems to have deep insecurity issues, so she had breast implants.

The implants would help her self-esteem. However, they exploded in her body within months. Now she’s left with fewer options than she had before, when she was FINE without a big bust.

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Now I am living a nightmare. For anybody having a boob job just to get big boobs, I would say think very seriously about the risks. I am devastated.

The complete story here.

This a reminder to women that — especially to the new generation of young girls terrified that they may be called flat-chested — plastic surgery isn’t always the best self-esteem booster. Security comes from within.

Certain things just don’t belong inside your body, ladies.

As long as you have a functioning brain… 😉

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