Success Should Not Depend on Breasts

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There’s a place for everything, and my guess is that if men wanted to see breasts, they would — it’s where they should — then go to a strip club. Even Burlesque shows can give them a better view. (I’ve got you covered, dudes.) But regular nightclubs are for dancing!

I went to yet another audition the other day — and this is for simple club dancing, nothing major, where the main things that should really be “popping” are personality, energy, and rhythm. As I struggled to make my top look full (I guess), one of the women I used to work with, and who was part of the panel judging our “abilities,” walked in the dressing room; noticed my struggle and bluntly said, “Girl, you gotta make ‘em pop if you want the job!”

No, I wasn’t shocked. She told me something I already knew, but had hoped to get away with. What I don’t understand is why women are objectifying other women. As far as I’m concerned, this business is run by women. Unless I’ve only seen the surface of it and they’re actually just marionettes. It’s in every field, apparently. Ballerinas can’t have large breasts; club dancers’ can’t have small breasts…it never ends. It’s so ridiculous and exhausting.

As much as I love this art, I would never alter my body just to fit in this artificial bullshit mainstream has created. Dancers simply want to dance and it’s a shame that they have to be put in that position, where their success depends on whether they’re small or large. Skills are not enough, it seems. We have to change that. I don’t believe a dancer’s talent, grace, passion, hard work, and ability to entertain should be overlooked because of the size of her cup. Shame on the industry for keeping this up.

I Support the ‘Ban Bossy’ Movement

When a little boy asserts himself, he’s called a “leader.” Yet when a little girl does the same, she risks being branded “bossy.” -Ban Bossy

They started this campaign and, what do you know, all sexists around the globe unite their trolling force and label these powerful women in the video, for instance, as “cunts” and whatever other colorful names you can think of — reminding us EXACTLY why we need these movements. It’s not about banning a word; it’s about banning labels that keep girls from climbing to the top and become LEADERS! I’m behind it.

How to Fake Bigger Boobs

A YouTube newsletter delivered the latest videos from my subscriptions to my inbox and one of the videos got my immediate attention. It read: “5 Ways to Fake Big Boobs!

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My first thought, I don’t even remember subscribing to any channel of that sort. Last night I was already bothered about having to deal with something similar over the weekend, so the last thing I wanted to see was another person telling women to essentially “fake it ’til they make it.”

But I clicked anyway. I would at least react to the “garbage” I was expecting to watch and have a story to blog about.  To my delight, it was not what I was thinking at all. It was better. Watch:

“It only takes a couple of bees to get a pair of double D’s.” ha ha!

It’s silly and it’s full of sarcasm and wittiness, and that’s why it’s perfect. Society needs to stop pushing girls and women to the extremes. Everyone needs to just stop trying to make large breasts the standard, because they are not.

So much background drama just to show you a video, right? :-D

I just love anything that reminds women to keep their feet on the ground, to love and appreciate their bodies — and if told through comedy, even better. And I remember now why I subscribed to that channel. The rest of her stuff is pretty funny, too, check it out!

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Guest Post: Breasts I

Miss Marcia:

This is beautiful.

Originally posted on JUG REPORT:

Eva Schach, an art history and visual arts major at Barnard College, shares and talks about a piece from her recent art collection. 

A couple months ago, Playboy issued a college spread, featuring a very, very peripheral acquaintance of mine from high school. Knowing this individual in real life, I was struck by the plasticity and manipulation of her body in the photographs. Though most (heteronormative) porn depicts extremely manicured female bodies, I found this article most off-putting because I had some idea of what she looked like in real life.

So, I began a series in which I painted ‘real’ bodies, inspired by the bodies my close friends. I chose to crop the bodies and isolate particular areas of interest, areas most commonly highlighted by the porn industry. By removing heads, I remove the body’s identifier and to some extent the woman’s personhood, creating both a universal body and…

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Don’t Need Your Silicone, I Prefer My Own

Am I less of a lady if I don’t wear pantyhose
My momma said ‘A lady ain’t what she wears but what she knows’
But I’ve drawn the conclusion, it’s all an illusion
Confusion’s the name of the game
A misconception, a vast deception
Something got to change.

What can I say, I love a good self-empowerment song! These words by India Arie are just perfect — anthem-material.

Sing it, ladies!

Real Dancers in a Fake World

“Unfortunately, and I hate to say this, but in this industry looks are very important…” said the lady.

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I had just finished auditioning for a dancing gig at one of the hottest entertainment companies out there. I stood there and listened, live, as the hiring manager gave me the same feedback she gave all the other girls who danced before me. She was sweet and honest, so I had no reason not to smile in the name of honesty. I nodded in agreement, making sure she understood that I understood how this business works. After all, I’ve done this many times before. I just wanted to share this one with you all.

Not sure if I mention it anywhere on my blog, but I’m a born-dancer. I love dancing. Never went to school for it, but give me a beat and I’ll dance my ass off like a pro! (Ahem, self-promotion.) However, regardless of my skills, it is hard to get in the industry if “professional” training never happened.

I’m a freelancer with a short resume trying to get back in the game. The only kind of dancing I can get into without a big portfolio, it seems, is go-go dancing (club dancing), which I’m totally okay with. The problem is that the majority of entertainment companies are hiring girls based solely on the “eye-candy” bullshit. And to meet that standard girls must have breasts the size of their heads. You get the point.

I can’t say all companies are like that — as I said, I was a go-go dancer myself and it worked out for me. But once a girl is in it, she sort of has to fake it if her boobs don’t pop up enough. (“How we fake it,” will be in my book!)

What upsets me is that 1) they do this all for men’s amusement; and 2) physical appearance rules over skills. This society is obsessed with pleasing men, WTF?! No offense to the good fellas, but I think it’s ridiculous how much emphasis is put on the male’s perspective. And, DAMN you, mainstream! I was home doing my workout once and a song by rapper Ludacris came up on my radio. The name of the song is “Southern Hospitality” and the lyrics are just… I mean, here’s the chorus that violated my ears:

All my women in the house if you chasing cash
And you got some big titties with a matching ass
With ya fly-ass boots or ya open toes
When ya get on the flow ([N-word] throw them ‘bows)

Of course, he replaces women with “hoes” in every other line, too.

“Big tits and a matching ass” though… The only thing I can say is that there is no place for a small girl in the hip hop world! (Thankfully?)

Going back to the dancing audition, dancing skills aren’t as important as looks when it comes to go-go dancing these days. “Looking for models” instead of dancers would be more appropriate wording. I think it’s a shame and totally unfair to real performers.

Hire dancers accordingly, nightclubs! Unless you’re a strip club, dancers don’t need large breasts to entertain an audience. They dance. Beauty counts, but I think most club-goers would also like to feel the energy, feel that they’re at a nightclub, not at a beauty contest.

Anyway, small-busted dancers out there, don’t let anything stop you! Beauty comes in all forms and shapes and it’s about time the entertainment industry gets it right.

When I’m Not Blogging…

I’m probably the worst blogger ever, posting on here only intermittently. I have so much to write about, but can’t manage my time correctly. I will be better this year, I have to! But I’m always around the corner; telling stories in pictures, talking to strangers in 140 characters… That’s what I do (online) when I’m not blogging. Connect with me if you’d like. The more the merrier!

P.S.: don’t judge my drawing ability on this blog! :-P (You can always do that here instead – > Story of a Terrible Drawer)

Body Evolution: A Video All Women Should Watch

This is an old video, but a message that never gets old. Watch how the model is “turned into a bombshell glamor model with the help of hair and makeup artists and of course, Photoshop.”

Airbrushing is playing with our standard of beauty and ruining the self-esteem of our young generation. It is important for women to understand that this “beauty” is not real. Images of models and celebrities we see on magazines are thoroughly tweaked. Don’t buy into the madness!

Natural beauty rules in the end.

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